UABBY OMHLE: Kwiminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu eyadlulayo “ndabaleka” kubantwana bam abadala ndaza ekugqibeleni ndazenzela imali.Bakwazile ukuhlala endlini kuba ndandimane ndibhatala indlu yam.Utata wabo – ex yam – wayehlala ecaleni kosapho.
Ngoku akukho namnye kubantwana bam ofuna ukuba nento yokwenza nam okanye intsapho yam, yaye abafuni kuba nanto yakwenza nam.Ndirhanela ukuba baziva belahliwe kuba ndingumzali abanokusoloko bethembele kuye.Ngaba ikho into endinokuyenza ukubuyisela ubuhlobo bethu?- Pennsylvania Runaway Mama
Mama othandekayo: ewe xelela abantwana bakho ukuba uyayithengisa indlu, ndicinga ukuba yeyakho ngoku.Ndiqinisekile ukuba baya kuqalisa “ukunxibelelana” nawe nje ukuba ilizwi lifike kubo.Uqhubeka uhlawula ngesisa kakhulu indlu ukuze babe nendawo yokuhlala.Ukuba kufuneka "ubaleke" kwimfuno yabo engapheliyo, wenza yonke into ngokufanelekileyo.Nceda uyeke ukusetyenziswa.Uzisindisile kwaye akufanele uzive ubi okanye unetyala ngayo.
U-ABBY OMTHANDAYO: Ndisandul’ ukuqalisa ukuncokola nomfana wexesha lam elidlulileyo.Ndimthanda kakhulu.Besisoloko silapho ixesha nexesha unyaka wonke kuba sobabini sinezinto ebomini bethu ekufuneka sigxile kuzo kuqala (njengebipolar disorder yam kunye nokufuna ingcebiso).
Phofu ke, umhlobo wam osenyongweni wandoyikisa ngokundikhupha ebomini bakhe ukuba ndiqalise ubuhlobo naye.Kwelinye icala, lo mfo undenza ndizive ngathi ndiyatsha – ngendlela elungileyo, ewe.Kodwa kwelinye icala, andifuni ukuphulukana nomhlobo wam osenyongweni.Ndenza ntoni?-Ukhetho olunzima e-Illinois
Ukhetho olunzima oluthandekayo!Uphoswe yinto ebalulekileyo kwileta yakho.Kutheni umhlobo wakho osenyongweni emchasa kabuhlungu lo mntu?Ukhweleta?Ngaba oku kunxulumene nengxaki yakhe?Ngaba bekukubi ngexesha lokugqibela ukunye naye?Imbi kangakanani?Umhlobo wakho osenyongweni usenokuba uzama ukukusindisa, kodwa akakhohlakali.thetha naye.
ABBY OMTHANDEKAYO: Kutshanje kufike umhlobo wam endlwini yam.Ndinika ikofu kunye nekeyiki, endiyinqumle ndayibeka epleyitini.Wathi akalambanga ngela xesha, wagoduka nayo watya wandicela ndiyisongele okanye ndiyifake kwicontainer.Ndathi ewe, kunjalo, kodwa andizange ndiyive into enjalo, nangona abaxhasi bahlala bethatha izidlo ezidliwayo zigoduka kwindawo yokutyela.Ngaba andiyindawo, okanye ndinelungelo lokothuka njengangoku?umamkeli-zindwendwe wamangaliswa.
Mmangaliso othandekayo: Ukuba “yothukile” yile nto ayenzayo, kufuneka ube novakalelo.Abahlobo bakho banyanisekile kuwe.mthembe.Usenokuyithanda ikeyiki oyinikayo, kodwa ubukele ubunzima bakhe kwaye ucinga ukuba uza kuyibeka kwisikhenkcisi ukuze anandiphe kwakhona.Andazi imithetho yokuziphatha, ngokwendlela iikeyiki kufuneka zityiwe phambi komninimzi.
U-Abby othandekayo wabhalwa nguAbigail Van Buren, owaziwa ngokuba nguJeanne Phillips, kwaye wadalwa ngumama wakhe, uPauline Phillips.Qhagamshelana no-Abby othandekayo ku-www.DearAbby.com okanye kwi-PO Box 69440, eLos Angeles, CA 90069.
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